Being naked in front of someone can evoke vulnerability. Add the layer of experiencing genuine pleasure, where unfamiliar faces and sounds arise? Letting down your guard can be daunting, we understand. Although we’re frequently advised that sexual intimacy is an opportunity to reveal our true selves, it can still be anxiety-inducing to completely expose ourselves to another individual. Thoughts about our appearance, the sounds we make, our sensations, or how we measure up to others are all common concerns that can cloud our minds during in bed.
We must address the topic of sounds during sexual activity, as they are often associated with pleasure. Moans, in particular, have been romanticized in pornography and movies, potentially leading us to believe that there’s only one way to express pleasure. However, emitting sounds and noises is entirely natural and can indicate to both you and your partner that you’re experiencing pleasure. Yet, it’s important to unlearn the idea that you must perform certain sounds solely for the other person’s satisfaction.
Ultimately, sexual expression should be about personal enjoyment, liberation, and connecting with the deepest parts of oneself and others. To assist you in embracing the moment and unleashing your inner passion, we offer some guidance.
So What We Gonna Do to Confident in Bed?
- Focus Sensory Awareness:
Direct your attention to the sensations you’re experiencing in the moment, allowing your inner voice to narrate your present experience rather than dwelling on insecurities. Closing your eyes and immersing yourself in the sensations can bring you back to your body and fully embrace the moment. - Establish Boundaries:
Clearly communicate your feelings and comfort levels to yourself and your partner. Remember, they’re there to enjoy the experience with you! Expressing your emotions and insecurities helps to acknowledge and release them, preventing them from overwhelming your mind. - Adjust Lighting:
Ease the pressure by dimming the lights to calm your mind and body. This reduces concerns about appearance and allows you to focus on your other senses. For a more adventurous touch, consider using blindfolds to feel sexy and relaxed. - Maintain Eye Contact:
Engage with your partner by making eye contact and observing their actions and appearance. This helps you stay present in the moment and fully engage in the experience together. - Monitor Self-Talk:
Be mindful of any negative self-talk during sex. Embrace your present self without forcing any changes or expectations. Show up as you are and embrace it. - Set the Mood:
Create an atmosphere conducive to relaxation and pleasure. Lighting a candle or playing a sexy playlist can shift the focus away from self-consciousness and enhance sensory experiences. - Solo Practice:
Enhance your connection with yourself to deepen your pleasure. Embrace yourself as you are and enjoy the pleasure you create, reducing self-consciousness. - Embrace Silence:
Discover the heightened pleasure of remaining quiet during sex. Challenge the notion that more sounds equal more satisfaction and focus on staying present and genuine in the moment.
